wow i read this long study about this but now i don’t remember where i found it…………
the kids who were told they were “smart” were afraid, given a choice, to try harder math problems. they were afraid to fail. kids who are “smart” are likely to be very discouraged by failure. (mr. allen pointed out to us the disconnect between “hard working” and “smart” - it was really formative.)
the kids who were praised for how hard they worked were motivated & inspired to try more challenging problems because they believed they would succeed if they worked harder.
That does make a ton of sense because if you are told you are smart, then that means you perceive people to be holding you to a higher standard than others which really makes you like a perfectionist when it comes to things. You need to be perfect and stay within those expectations everyone has of you. On the other hand, if you are called motivated then you are held to a higher standard of effort which means you will try to maintain those high expectations in your trying.